You may know someone who is going through counseling and therapy for a dilemma or issue they are facing. You may even have had the chance to experience counseling and therapy first-hand, but perhaps you felt that the process wasn’t particularly beneficial to you. One reason is that you may not have had the best therapist or counselor who had your real interests and well-being in mind. But whatever impression or idea you have about counseling and therapy, one thing’s for sure: it can be a tool and stepping-stone for you to have a better life and emotional wellness. If you are unsure of how counseling works and how it can really help you, here’s what you need to know.
The process: how it works
In counseling, the counselor or therapist and the client will explore various situations where the client feels dissatisfied or has difficulties. If you are experiencing emotional pain, for instance, or if you are under stress, you and your counselor can talk about your feelings and emotions as a way of processing whatever it is you are going through. The process starts when the counselor asks you about whatever it is that is bothering you or whatever it is that you are dissatisfied with and gives you a chance to talk about the problem. Through the process, your counselor will be able to gain a better understanding of how your problem or issue is affecting you. In turn, you will be able to gain better insight into your dilemma or concern as well. You and your counselor can then begin exploring new avenues and processes in dealing with the issue, and you can also begin to assess and examine patterns and processes which are related to your concerns. Additionally, you and your counselor can begin exploring new thought processes and patterns in order to address and resolve the issue.
Your comfort is essential
When you go through therapy and counseling, it is essential that you are truly comfortable with the process and how it is going. For this reason, you should not be afraid to let your counselor or therapist know if you have any discomfort or concerns. In the same vein, you should feel comfortable enough during your sessions to ask whatever questions you have in mind. The mere act of asking questions may even help you move forward in a more significant and emotionally satisfying way. What you should remember is this: with proper counseling and therapy, you should have a good and productive relationship with your counselor or therapist. The counselor or therapist should be open to whatever questions or concerns you have, and no question is too simple or complex. In fact, the more questions you have, the more your counselor or therapist should welcome it, as it can also help them help you better.
A good counselor or therapist will also know that there may be times when talking about a specific problem or dilemma can be painful or uncomfortable – and this is why they will set a pace which is comfortable to you and which is according to your comfort level.
Good therapy and counseling should always be geared towards finding solutions for whatever you are facing or feeling. Your comfort comes first, and you should always feel that you are getting the consideration you need. You need to feel safe with your counselor, and this also comes with a feeling of trust. In finding the right therapist and counselor, think about these factors, and you should be well on your way to finding the solution (and answers) you need.
Authored by: Clinical Staff Contributor